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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here in Upper Caucasia, DC, if you have your second child at 45, you will NOT always be the oldest parent.  Lots of families where mom has a grade school kid or two and is well into her 50s.  For perspective, a mom here who had her first in her late 20s refers to herself as a "DC teen mom."[/quote]

LOL!  This is also what I say (in fact, maybe you are my friend and talking about me!).  I had my first in my late 20s and people act (and acted) like I was 15.  I suspect more weirdly than if you're 45.  But I say, whatever, if you're aware and accepting of possible risks of increased maternal and paternal age, the potential challenges (and costs (both financial and psychological)) of getting pregnant at 45, and the real consequences of the age at which you have a child (be it younger or older than average for this area), others' opinions should not be a factor.  I would not want a baby at 45, but that's probably in part because I had one at 30, whereas the OP did not.  [/quote]

I feel the same. Got pregnant at 25 with my first. I don't want to have kids at 45 because I will have a grown child by then. However, if I had my first at 40+ and wanted a second and had a helpful DH, I'd go for it. I agree that I stand out more at PTA than you. At our charter, the PTA moms are primarily 15-20 years older than me.[/quote]

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