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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is neurodivergent and high-functioning and attends one of the smaller independent schools. The school is accommodating insofar as they give her extra time on tests and a flash pass/excused absence when she needs a break. However, she is expected to complete all homework and assignments fully and on time and advocate for herself/work with teachers directly if she needs additional support. Graduation requirements (foreign language, arts, core classes, PE, etc) are non-negotiable.

What this means in reality is that my kid gets As in classes that are aligned with how her brain works and barely squeezes out Cs in others (with a decent number of assignments graded as D/F and 0s for anything that is missing). Her grades are totally unrelated to intelligence/capability or to how engaged she is with the material. They do reflect the quality of the work she turns in.

I'm of two minds about this. On the one hand, it sucks that we are paying a fortune for a school where my super smart kid is getting some bad grades. I wish teachers would give her a second chance on some assignments or at least provide her with more explicit instruction/scaffolding/support. So far, she's not very willing to proactively seek out such support from her teachers or to accept it from a tutor or parent.

On the other hand, her in-class experience is fantastic, she loves her teachers, and I think there is a lot of value in getting real information about her abilities and deficits in terms of assignments/assessments/work because it informs how we think about supporting her in college/career/adult life. [/quote]

I could have written this. I have a similar DD at a small independent school who also gets As and C/Ds and I am of two minds about keeping her there. But she wants to stay and the school is in many ways good about trying to help her.[/quote]

Another parent with a similar kid. Even grades from term to term in the same class can be wildly different depending on the type of assignment (more writing = worse grades because of certain issues) but my kid LOVES school. Loves the teachers, including the ones that are the hardest.

Would not trade the current experience for what we came from - public school that passed our kid along and just another middling kid not worth the effort. [/quote]

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