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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My H cheated and the kids found out so …

1. There was no “arguing” before but he was intense,

2. He moved to a guest room

3. He did tons of therapy.

4. He lived in the guest room until the youngest went to college which was 4 years.

5. Day to day nothing really changed since we were both there and there was no arguing.

6. When the youngest went to college he mixed out. I bought him out.

7. We are amicable so we do holidays together and went together for college visits.

8. We had done couples therapy but he was not willing to not be intense so I did individual therapy to deal with it. I did a year of therapy post d-day but I was a bit relieved to have a “valid” reason.

I’m 58 now happily living alone and not dating and my life is happy, full and peaceful.[/quote]

So basically it was pretty darn bad, but still not bad enough for him move out before the end of high school. Consider this, OP-- that's how important staying through high school was to this family.[/quote]

lol you read into this that it was “pretty darn bad”? Where exactly did u get that part?

We had a great life and relationship. The biggest issue was that he was intense. We still do all family things together.

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Because he cheated on you and the kids found out! [/quote]

So?

The kids realized hey your spouse can cheat on you and if you don’t wrap that identity all over you, make the best of a situation and continue to be a good person it all works out in the end.

They also realized a terrible mistake does not define you and you can do hard work to get better, be grateful for what you have, mourn what you f’d up, own it and your family can still love you.

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If it's all fine and dandy, why divorce?[/quote]

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