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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You will miss him terribly when he is gone, and you will regret this post.[/quote]

new person here: it's possible to miss someone conceptually, and still not be interested in the load of responding (frequently expected immediately!) to random texting or calling or video calling from someone who isn't actually interested in a dialog, but just interested in stealing bits of attention whenever they want.

my parents are both dead. bless their hearts but they'd call multiple times in a row if i didn't pick up to tell me whatever thing they just saw on tv and then somehow "forget" to tell me if they went to the hospital or got into a car accident. there was no possibility of a meaningful conversation with them, even before the years of dementia happened.

do i feel sad and miss never having a parent that could be called my best friend or i could even have a serious conversation with? absolutely. do i feel sad that i am no longer getting calls about something they saw on fox news? absolutely not. did i hesitate to spend a lot of time with them at their actual end of life? not for a second. Like nearly all familial relationships, it's complicated.

for those who lost their best friends, i am so sorry. it's heartbreaking. but that is not my loss. and i don't think it will be OPs loss.
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