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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to accept that this is what they want and dying unnecessarily or in an unpleasant way is their choice. And treating their family badly is also a choice and they are choosing it. Stop fighting them, it's not worth it. I've had to accept this with my dad, and if at some point he loses the ability to know where he is anyway, I will move him. [/quote]

+1.  It's horrible, but eventually I came to accept that my parents wanted to live as they always had, and any ideas and support were unwanted.  At some point there will be a fall or other emergency, and they will go wherever my siblings and I can find placement, but at least they will have stayed in their home as long as possible.  Which is what they really want.  It's very hard to come to terms with and my siblings and I look like deadbeats to their neighbors and friends, but you can't make people do what they don't want to do.  In my parents case they have always been stubborn, so at least I have the peace of mind of knowing this unreasonable behavior isn't dementia.[/quote]

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