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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about people who can relate respond to the OP? The ones whose parents died when they were a teen or who had different relationships cannot relate. I guess it's great if you miss texting your mom... but there are many of us who do not. It's become a burden, because the elder is immature and needy. Often has always been. Imagining parenting your parent type of relationship. Give the OP some grace. [/quote]
Please stop with your burden nonsense. He’s looking for a few texts. When he goes I hope it’s fast because his daughter is clearly not equipped to be supportive through a major decline or long illness.[/quote]

As I said, you don't get it. These people have been a burden THEIR WHOLE LIVES. They're immature and emotionally needy. Of course you'd wonder and I have too why someone chose a spouse like this and decided to have kids with them... but as adult children, we'll never know. Maybe they were easy to order around, maybe they did as they were told... except actually taking on any responsibilities. They were another child, except that they never grew up. Mine is a perpetual damsel in distress. It must be attractive to the opposite sex when a woman is young... but believe me, pushing 80 and for an adult child, it's as off-putting as it gets. In my FOO I was the next in charge after my functional parent since I was an elementary schooler. Not that my dad wasn't fed up. He was as well. After decades, it grinds you down. Similarly to the OP I have supported my mom for 5 years after... and similarly, I'm tapped out. They suck the life out of you. [/quote]
Her dad wants about 5 minutes of contact, that doesn’t sound like your situation. I’ve cared for a lot of elders and OP’s dad’s needs are so minor. She’s ridiculous.[/quote]

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