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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, while I realize this is annoying for you to pull together.  Just remember college kids might eventually stop coming by.  It's a compliment he's bringing his friends to your home and a sign he feels safe and welcomed.  So swallowing the critiques and throwing your arms wide open and being really glad they are there means A LOT to your kids at this age.

I watched my Mom be more than welcoming and it's paid off with lots of casual time with not only her children, but the people they are friends with.  My MIL was always grumpy and would have complained and grouched about something like this and she has met ZERO friends her kids have made post-college.  They are both local.

So yes, it's annoying because it's last minute and you feel stressed.  But drop your perfection expectations, get a meal on the table, bulk up dessert if you aren't sure and just try to relax and enjoy your son and his friends.[/quote]

This is going to maybe be controversial but as I am getting older I don't really get why I need to be welcoming and also need to enjoy being welcoming or else I am an inferior person...I don't enjoy it and don't really want to meet my kids' friends? To me it's just a whole lot of work piled on top of work and the reward seems to be for extroverts who actually love the company and chit chat, which is not me at all. It just feels like you're a mom of little kids and must entertain and do playdates, then you're a mom of teens and you're a driver, and then you're an empty nester and you are the crash pad. And that's not to say I am acting like a grouch or I'm rude. No, I make the house nice and I make a meal and I try my best, but it is hard for me and my enjoyment of it is 0%. I am so thrilled the minute everyone leaves.[/quote]

It doesn't make you inferior, but is there something positive you can grab on to? For you own sake?

I'm the pp and an introvert (and in the throes of perimenopausal irritability) and I love meeting my boys' friends because there's history among them and it's the people my kids choose to spend time with. I said 4 were at the house, all working on laptops, but mostly talking. Every time I said something casual, then and throughout the weekend, they would really engage. I had met 3, and the 4th and I had a long conversation one morning while everyone else was sleeping. It makes me feel closer to my boys, and their friends are generally sweethearts I love cheering on. It's nice to interact with people who aren't my age because I do that every day. [/quote]

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