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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everything is a consideration, but you cant generalize - it really depends on the people.  Where this match is most likely to have problems that aren’t obvious until it’s too late is kids, like if [b]the UMC partner wants private school, golf lessons, SAT tutor, etc., and the LMC one thinks its a waste of money because they turned out fine without it.[/b]  Money issues with parents too - go to the family forum for plenty of those stories.    [/quote]
All of this. My ex-DH envies all the ways I have given our kids a headstart in life. I don't think he realized just how early the upbringings of UMC kids diverge from that of LMC kids until he saw [b]all the ways I strategize our kids' success[/b]. It's really weird how resentful he gets about it. Almost as if he doesn't want the kids to do better than him on a very deep level that he denies to himself. I think even the sincere desire to have your kids do better and the willingness to work to ensure that (not just vaguely hope for it) also differs among the classes.[/quote]

This just made me vomit in my mouth[/quote]

It’s TRUE though.  Poster is correct and a good parent.

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+1.  We all strategize our kids futures on DCUM—[b] big 3 or bust[/b]; travel sports; regional/national competitions in science, art, and music; colleges to apply to.

I’m curious why this comment made the pp vomit in their mouth.

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You think this mindset is healthy? What if, for a million reasons, a Big 3 wasn't going to be a good fit for your kid? You'd force them to go anyway? That idea makes me want to vomit. And my kids are in a school that is actually consistently ranked higher than all the Big 3 schools, just in another part of the country. But the school is a good fit for both of them (so far, they're in middle). If it wasn't, I wouldn't make them stay because them being at another school didn't align with my "strategy."[/quote]

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