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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery[/quote]
I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.[/quote]

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs. [/quote]

OP here. 
Do you all not have any passion in your marriage anymore?
Isn’t that a bit sad?
I don’t believe that what I want is too much to ask. I know couples who have been together for many years and still feel that intense passion.
My parents have been married for 40 years. My Mom says she still gets butterflies when my Dad holds her hand, and the passion in their relationship hasn’t diminished.
I know it can happen.
Wanting this doesn’t make me a bad person.[/quote]

I don't believe you're a bad person for asking this question, but I think you would be making a huge mistake to divorce over this. As someone who has been married over 20 years the passion has come and gone and then come back again, but my commitment to our family hasn't wavered. Life with young kids can be tough and it's not at all the excitement of new love, so you need to decide all of the things you will do to bring what you need. What are you doing to spark passion? Going on exciting trips? Trying new things? what are you investing in your marriage every day to make it better? You can leave and try something new but you will likely end up back here, and you will have hurt your husband and child irreparably.[/quote]

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