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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery[/quote]
I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.[/quote]

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs. [/quote]

OP here. 
Do you all not have any passion in your marriage anymore?
Isn’t that a bit sad?
I don’t believe that what I want is too much to ask. I know couples who have been together for many years and still feel that intense passion.
My parents have been married for 40 years. My Mom says she still gets butterflies when my Dad holds her hand, and the passion in their relationship hasn’t diminished.
I know it can happen.
Wanting this doesn’t make me a bad person.[/quote]

I'm PP. I do have passion in my marriage still, but not every day in a constant state of butterflies like it was when we started dating and didn't see each other all the time. I still find myself catching a glimpse of my husband and thinking he is so hot and telling him so. That happens at least every week. I love touching him and being touched by him. I'm so much more deeply in love with him now that we have children and I've seen him be a dad. Our relationship has also deepened over time, especially as life has done some cruel things to both of us. I would take the depth and strength of our marriage today over the butterflies I felt when we were dating every day. I think you're mistaking intense passion as a sexual feeling for deep love, which I think is what these couples you're talking about have. But hey, if you want to go enter the dating pool at your age with a kid and see if you can find some kind of better passion, go ahead. Just leave your kid with your ex please. [/quote]

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