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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.[/quote]

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning.  There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned.  It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.[/quote]

There is a big difference between those who are constructively pushing back on school suggestions and those who are insulting the OP by saying they are nuts for being so concerned and anxious when they have given no indication that this is the case in multiple well-written posts.[/quote]

I never said the OP was nuts.  I said some of the responses are.[/quote]

You are the only crazies in this thread.  If that isn’t apparent to you, seek professional help.[/quote]

I read the OP's first thread carefully.  Many of the other posters did not, as evidenced by the many posters advising her that her son needs to get his SAT scores up, when she made clear that he hasn't even taken them yet, and suggesting the she look at Naviance when she made clear that she already had.

What I took away from my careful reading was that she has a well-rounded and happy 10th grader with many friends who is doing well at a selective NYC high school even if he isn't at the very top of his class.  I happen to think that a kid like that can and will do well at many, many colleges.  I also think that when dealing with a kid like that it often doesn't help to start "worrying" -- her word -- about college and projecting that worry on the kid.  [b]And I'll never understand why posters throw out the names of a half a dozen or so random colleges, many of which are quite dissimilar from one another, in response to every one of these threads[/b].

My initial advice -- that the OP relax and wait things out a little -- still stands.  I am not willing to go along with the college admissions frenzy that so many other DCUM poster help to perpetuate.    [/quote]

To the PP.  What I think you are missing is that DCUM is effectively a crowdsourcing forum and that there is known effectiveness in crowdsourcing.

One source of effectiveness is the tip/hack/suggestion that is unexpected, that an OP would not have thought of on their own.

Another source of effectiveness is determining what schools get mentioned over and over again.  This is similar to the use of crowdsourcing for prediction markets.  Many people with similar advice suggests there is a school worth looking into.

PP, many of the people responding here are parents who have recently toured, live near, or have applicants going through the process/or recently went through.  It's very dismissive of you to assume their lists are random.  What may be true is that these posters have different selection criteria for their proposals.  That is not random.  OP can inquire further about any of the schools that are of interest to find out the whys.[/quote]

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