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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hit that wall in my early 40s, a couple of years after having DC #2. I became a SAHM,[b] and my social life centered around the DCs rather than around adult gatherings requiring a babysitter. [/b]FWIW, life started getting fun and less exhausting again in my 50s. We’re back to eating out regularly, going to shows, and traveling impromptu. [/quote]

This is why every middle aged mom in suburbia are miserable. You need your own life, friends and hobbies as opposed to your children running your social life. Of course you admit life started getting fun again in your 50s. [/quote]

But not every middle aged mom in suburbia is miserable? Some are happy.

Also I'm a middle aged working mom in the city and I am often miserable. I have a job, hobbies, and friends and my one child does not "run" my social life.

I think sometimes it's just time of life, predisposition, etc. Midlife crisis is a stereotype for a reason. I've actually found myself digging in more on motherhood lately specifically to address the ennui I feel, because the time I spend with my DD feels more rewarding and fulfilling than a lot of the other stuff I'm doing. I'm so bored with work, exercise, getting drinks with friends, fashion, etc. A lot of my friends still really enjoy a lot of that stuff and when we hang out they want to talk about new pop music I can't get into, fashion and beauty trends I can't get excited about, and celeb gossip (that one still is mildly entertaining for me but also often makes me sad). My 10 year old actually talks about stuff I find more engaging at this point, and it's more interesting to hear about the perspective of someone learning about the world for the first time than someone at a similar age and place in life as I am.

I don't think it has anything to do with where I live or being a mom. I think it's just time of life, probably hormones related to menopause, maybe a predisposition for being an overthinking or getting bored with fun/shallow stuff. [/quote]

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