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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a huge red flag. People need to be complete without their partner or else they'll become overly dependent on you and/or resent your friends and pull you away from your social support network. Someone who is incapable of attracting and keeping friends lacks essential emotional skills. Ask yourself why nobody but you finds them interesting and comforting enough to want to spend their time with them? Why does nobody but you feel comfortable confiding in them or counting on them? [/quote]

I mean there are lots of assumptions here. As has been discussed on the thread, no friends doesn't mean no social ties or support system. People are imperfect. Sometimes friendships end, a person could be between friendships. You are making these extreme assumption that a friendless person is, by definition, a rejected person, without considering any other life circumstances. Did they recently move or change jobs or careers? Have they made big changes in their life that might have led them to re-evaluate the people in their life (e.g. changed their lifestyle towards something healthier or more meaningful, thus distancing them from former friends they now associate with unhealthy or less meaningful choices)?

You seem overly focused on the idea that if someone has no friends, it must be that the world has deemed them unworthy and thus you must as well. Is that how you would respond to someone who had been single for a few years -- no one else wanted them so I shouldn't either? It would be healthier for you to learn to make decisions about people based on your own experiences with them, and not worry so much about what other people think of them. Other people can be careless and dumb, it happens all the time. The crowd is not always the best judge of a person's worth.[/quote]

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