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[quote=Anonymous]This definitely feels like a troll (the story that her family "rotated" staying with her in her dorm during college was a bridge too far for me), but on the very off chance this is real, it's really classic case of family enabling to essentially give someone a disability. Like I'm not hearing ADHD or autism at all, I'm hearing someone who has literally never been allowed to fail or be forced to deal with a problem on her own, even a problem that is extremely low stakes like having to be on her own for dinner one night.

While OP is probably trolling, I've definitely encountered less extreme versions of this IRL. Young people (some eventually not so young) whose family and other loved ones work to make sure the individual never experiences any negative consequences for certain behaviors. Often youngest kids in big families -- it's a stereotype for a reason. Just a bunch of people telling them their entire life that their own bad behavior is "not your fault, you're still learning" while at the same time always punishing others for anything that hurts their feelings because "she's your little sister, you have to take care of her!" It screws people up. Not to this degree, the people I've known like this were a lot more functional than this and could, for instance, hold down at least a basic job or live independently. But still emotionally and socially stunted.[/quote]

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