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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I promise this is not a slight to you or your son. They can’t cater to every guest, even close family. Their wedding is about them, not about you and the gifts you have given. (Please think about what your post implied. Clearly the money wasn’t a gift because you now think it had strings attached). For one day, let them make decisions in THEIR best interests, even if you don’t understand them. 
Imagine if every important person in their life wanted some accommodation at their wedding. It becomes exhausting and unnecessarily stressful trying to meet everyone’s expectations. It is one day. You can decide to attend or not to attend. But it is petty to change your gift or not talk to him because you were not made to feel special at his wedding. Repeat as many times as necessary - this decision has nothing to do with you or your child. [/quote]

Op here - The money was given because I felt close to my nephew and wanted to help him.  It is not so much that I expect something for it, but that this lack of invitation for my child and lack of conversation about it initiated by him indicates to me that we are not actually close at all.[/quote]

I agree that someone should have talked to you about it.  Had someone chatted with you about the motivations (which can often be financial), you'd probably feel better about it.[/quote]

Op again- if it was the insurance thing like someone upthread mentioned, that would be nice to know.  But 16+ (as opposed to 21+) seems targeted to include the second youngest cousin.  Is 16+ a normal cutoff?  I have been to around 40 weddings and never seen 16+ on an invite before.  [/quote]

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