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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Working til midnight every night sounds awful for anyone. I'm not sure this was a fair condition to impose. When you say "rotation" I assume he works in a medical field.

My ex began traveling constantly for work when our oldest was barely out of diapers. If anything, his schedule kept our marriage together for decades past its expiration date because I didn't have to actually deal with him on a regular basis.

If you're also working, hire someone to do some of the driving. Or divorce if this situation is a non-negotiable and move back to from whence you came.

Just don't stew in resentment over a setup that's not going the way you had expected. You do have options and you have a right to be annoyed/disappointed, but now that this is a reality, you need to decide how you want to move forward.[/quote]

This. The harsh reality of this schedule is that if it isn't really temporary, it's going to be a marriage killer.  He'll get home at what, 12:30, not be in bed until 1.  With kids' school and her work, OP is up at, what, 7 at the latest?  This isn't just bedtime, it's mornings too. If they share a bed Op will be woken up by him coming in and him when she gets up.  So they won't sleep well and be grouchy.

And with the schedules not lining up, it's going to kill their sex lives.

Do people work these schedules?  Sure.  But they're practical nightmares and relationship killers.  People who do work nights often have partners who have flexible schedules or it's just a pure need/survival thing.[/quote]

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