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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I lost a lot of weight about 10 years ago due to illness and tons of people told me how great I looked. That really bothered me. I was so sick I could barely eat anything for 6 months. So, that's what it takes for me to look great, I guess. I've recently lost a lot of weight again (although not as much as last time), and almost nobody has said a word. Maybe that's because I'm older and they think I might be sick?? Maybe it's because they suspect I'm using weight loss meds?? Or maybe it's because they still think I'm fat?? I'm not really sure. But after these two experiences, I think it's best to just not comment on people's bodies at all.[/quote]

I truly think it is a cultural change. I also had many more people saying something 10 years ago, which really stressed me out and bothered me. Now I'm relieved they don't. I don't think it means they think anything negative about you, they've just learned the same lesson that it's better not to comment.[/quote]

100% I would much rather people not say anything at all or just give me a general compliment that doesn't mention my weight at all.

And by all means, people, don't ever ask how someone lost weight. Just don't. If they want you to know, they'll tell you.[/quote]

It all depends. In family, it’s ok. At work, no. Context matters and most people have functional relationships with family. [/quote]

Actually in my highly functional family we treat one another with good manners. My grandmother taught all of us that includes never saying anything about another person’s body, particularly a woman’s body. Somehow her great-granddaughter’s could learn that lesson easily but you still haven’t.[/quote]
We also grew up with the maxim of never making personal remarks[/quote]

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