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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marriage is more than just sex.  [/quote]

Of course, marriage is about more than sex. So if your DH said to you, "I love you and want to stay married, but sex is very important to me. Since you decided it's no longer something you want to do, I'm going to find someone to satisfy me sexually outside of our marriage." That would be totally ok with you, right?[/quote]

If my spouse told me he wanted to have sex with people outside our marriage, I would tell him that wasn't okay with him, but if that's what he really wanted, then we could get divorced.

Look, if you are unhappy with your sex life in your marriage, you have three options:
(1) Divorce
(2) Discuss opening the marriage with your spouse, and do that if you both agree
(3) Accept it

These might fee like inadequate solutions, I get it. But those are really the only ethical options. Some of you seem to think there are additional options, but sorry, these just aren't ethical. These are:

(4) Cheat
(5) Somehow force your partner to have sex with you?? I never understand this.

The rest of us are never going to condone 4-5, sorry. 1-3 are all fine with me, do whatever makes the most sense for you.[/quote]

But you said "marriage is more than sex." So sex is important enough to you that you'd divorce over it, but it's selfish if your husband wants to stay married to you but also fullfil his sexual needs. So which is it?[/quote]

Everyone gets to decide for themselves what they will and won't accept in a marriage. I would be okay if my spouse decided to stop having sex with me, but I would not be okay with them have sex with someone else. That might not make sense to you, which is fine, because we're not married.

My spouse and I are actually on the same page about this so it's okay. Like we even discussed it before we got married. And we both get that we can't force the other one to accept something they don't want. So it's good.[/quote]

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