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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's hard to tell what is going on from OP's scenario. Did your kid get to play at all or were they benched the whole time? What 15 minutes are your referring to?

Not all rec leagues have "equal" playing time rules. Most have minimum playing time rules. Before I talked to the coach, I'd read up on this. Different coaches and different leagues have different approaches to setting this up. Just because your kid didn't play in the first 15 minutes doesn't mean they didn't get minimum or equal playing time.[/quote]

+1, I'm not clear on what happened. OP says they'd been through 5 "rotations" and that the other kids on the team had all played 3-4 times. In 15 minutes? Usually by 2nd grade kids are getting to play for at least 5 minutes at a time, how long were these rotations.

A half is generally 20 or 25 minutes. I'm guessing if they were short players, they were just playing 20 minute halves. Did OP say something during the break?

I agree the advice to never bring this stuff up during the game is good. Even if my kid was looking miserable and frustrated at not getting to play, I'd keep my mouth shut until the game was over. And then afterwards I'd talk to him to ask what was going on, if he knew why he hadn't played. And then I'd talk to the coach. To not play a kid at all during a game at that level is incredibly rude -- the kid suited up, the family trucked to the field, that's a family's whole morning sometimes. I would expect an explanation and no I would not observe a "24 hour rule." It's not about being an intense sports parent who thinks my kid is David Beckham, it's about treating the kids fairly and ensuring they are all getting equal opportunities in an entry level sport that is about kids learning the basics, getting exercise, and developing teamwork.

If OP was hassling the coach in the middle of the game, that's annoying and he/she should have held back and waited until it was over (perhaps the kid was about to go in). But if the kid sat the whole game and the coach was rude about it when they asked, or if there was other context indicating the coach was just being a jerk, I get it. I would be pretty irritated to be time, effort, and money into signing my kid up for a team only to have them sit their twiddling their thumbs for now reason.

I've never volunteer coached but have done lots of other thankless volunteer jobs (backstage at the ballet recital, timer at swim tournaments, chaperoning field trips, manning merch tables at school fairs, etc. etc.). I get it. You are donating your time and people aren't always very appreciative. But you don't take it out on the kids. They are the whole point.[/quote]

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