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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I’m not going to describe specifics because I’m not willing to risk this kid being recognized.

Thanks for the helpful responses. I really only want to hear from people who may have experienced something similar and how you handled it.

And FYI: yes, I’ve talked to dd and yes, I’ve been in therapy.

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I have a female teen with an eating disorder that involves only sensory avoidance and anxiety about feeling sick after eating certain foods. I am sure when she goes to friend's houses or out to eat with friends that people notice she does not eat much. OP I would be livid if a parent raised this with me. I would be even angrier if you told a school counselor. Like wth would they do? I'd say mind your own business, help your own kid be healthy. My kid's friends don't know she has anxiety about
foods that are unknown to her, so I am sure they have opinions. Moms see a lot. What I wish is they'd see my kid has a normal body weight, is active in sports and eats well when she has food in her tolerance area. I think it is weird you won't share what red flags.

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When dealing with issues like this in teens, there's no benefit to anyone keeping them a guarded secret. There is too much risk involved, kids are vulnerable, and outsiders have no way of knowing what is driving the behavior and what else may be going on. If parents/others feel compelled to make sure someone is aware, and that the child has access to supports,  they absolutely should. It's not a negative conversation. It's bringing in support circles for the kid. Not eating on its own is one thing. But often there's a lot of comments and other indicators of issues when it is a ED versus what you describe about your daughter. If someone thought you didn't know that this was happening, why would you be super angry for them to check in with you?[/quote]

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