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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Months ago I stopped speaking to someone I had been close to for a long time. There was a significant incident that I found deeply disrespectful. When I raised it at the time, instead of acknowledging it, they doubled down and explained why they were justified. I decided to disengage.

We share mutual acquaintances, so I’ve quietly managed logistics by skipping events where they’ll be and not including them in things I host.

Out of nowhere, I received an email asking if I can “finally let it go” because they “miss me and want to be in my life again.” There was no acknowledgment of what happened and no apology.

I’m honestly more irritated now than I was before. I’m unsure whether to ignore it, respond briefly, or say something more direct. If you’ve been in a similar situation, how did you handle it? How would you respond? [/quote]

You are rearranging your life around this person, so obviously they mean something to you. Do you want to keep living like that? Do you want to be friends again? Or do you want them out of your life?

Be honest about what you want and go from there. Silence means continuing. Reaching out means trying to establish friendship. Telling them never to contact you again means ending the relationship — which would allow you to tell everyone that you are no longer friends with this person so that logistics can be made much easier.[/quote]

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