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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Screen a guy who is fun and light himself and needs a serious, responsible woman to temper him. So in general, avoid men in stuffy professions like medicine, engineering, certain areas of law.

Also find a new father figure for your siblings. I know it sounds cold, but the American way is to leave those children in the hands of their actual parent(s) so you can strike out on your own. You can help, but they aren’t your responsibility. [/quote]

I disagree with this advice, having tried it myself and ended up even more stressed out and anxious, playing mom to a man who never actually grew up or got his ADHD treated.  It was fun for a couple of years when we were 18-20, then it was pure hell.

First, get therapy and find your calm and peace.  Then, if you decide to partner up, choose a partner who is very responsible and dependable so you can be the light, fun person in the partnership.  [/quote]
Idk why no one in this thread thinks that extroverted, gregarious, happy-go-lucky guys who can laugh and be witty are automatically manchildren. The opposite temperment of OP can’t *all* be losers, and those guys marry *somebody*! Opposites frequently find each other.[/quote]

Men who are looking for "light and fun" women are really asking "will you put up with my irresponsible, annoying BS without giving me grief?". "Be his peace" is some crazy entitled advice. Men either bring peace by providing, or they bring chaos and a bunch of expectations.

Having a sense of humor is fine. Needing your partner to be a certain kind of non-threatening is a red flag.[/quote]

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