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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is petty but I just have so much rage against my dh on snow days. He’s normally helpful. Today his work was closed, but I had to telework, kids school was closed.

He acts like a child on snow days. He slept in until 10am, spent 3 hours on the toilet (cumulatively) on his phone, hours on his laptop after, fed the kids “lunch” but left plates everywhere. The puppy needs extra help forcing her to go outside in snow so she repeatedly pooped everywhere indoors. The kids bugged me nonstop for help with their snow gear, waters and snacks. They were all upset their snow gear hadn’t been dried during lunch and was wet when they tried to go back out (he hadn’t put it in the dryer or boot dryer).   You can’t believe the mess that is my house right now.

Im sure the kids will be off school all week and I’ll get zero work done and will need to take leave, so this was my only chance. He’ll likely have to drive to work tomorrow and leave me alone. I’m just angry. Friday I took annual leave because the kids school was closed and the house was immaculate when he came home.

Anyone else annoyed? Snow days suck. [/quote]

There’s a definite communication problem here. I told my DH that I am teleworking so he’s in charge, and that’s it. I go to my office and shit the door, come out at lunch, and then go back in til the day is over.

That being said, he parents differently than I do, and his standards of cleanliness are not the same as mine. But when he’s in charge, he gets to decide everything, and I don’t interfere.[b] Like in the wet gear example, I know my DH would tell them they need to figure out how to play indoors rather than spend time drying snow gear.[/quote][/b]

+1.  You let the other person make the parenting decision when you are not in charge and the other person and the family members they were in charge of reap the consequences.  When kids come to you and ask for help because the other family member failed to think through something (like putting wet clothes in dryer), you just turn the kid around, say "I'm working and Dad is in charge today, ask him for help or figure out another plan on your own."  I had days where I said, "unless someone is bleeding or there is a water leak, you need to hold your Q or problem until later or figure it out yourself." [/quote]

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