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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both you and this guy are both literally still married. Irrespective of whatever this guy did, *You* need to slow down.[/quote]

Op here. I know! This is why I did not want to rush into anything and take it slow. When we met on Hinge, he still lived in the same house as his ex-wife and he was so vulnerable and new at all of this. I enjoyed his company and we clicked but I didn’t want to be used as a rebound or for him to transfer all of his unresolved feelings onto me. I said let’s take it slow and gather our bearings and especially to give him time to move out and build his independent life.

Meanwhile we saw each other once a week; had makeout sessions; [b]texting all day and calling each other.[/b] We had a connection and a natural way of relating to each other.[b] I helped him pick out his new apartment and went shopping with him a few times to help him get stuff for his new kitchen. [/b]We spent a romantic valentines day together.

I knew were not exclusive but felt pretty secure we are building toward something we so sort out our personal lives and logistics.

So color me surprised that he apparently built a “strong connection” with this other woman behind my Back. When I asked him what they had in common he said that she was different than me, a single mom who parented similar to him and they had a similar sense of humor. She also expressed interest in him and chased him and wanted sex early on while I was taking it slow. She wanted to see and meet him spontaneously and he liked that.

I didn’t sleep at all last night and I’m trying to pick myself back up. [/quote]

You were acting like a girlfriend/wife while not actually holding that title.

Too many women waste their time and emotions auditioning for the role of girlfriend for men who will never commit. That's backwards. If he treats you like a casual date, you treat him like a casual date. You should not have been so available, and certainly not help pick out apartments or kitchen supplies. He is a grown man and can do those things himself.[/quote]

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