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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ Yep, you are clearly a pro-adoption cheerleader and probably work in the industry.

And an industry it is.

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You know, if you were  angry about vaccines, and I showed  you viable data that  goes against your  belief,  you would accuse me of working for Big Pharma. Lol. Not everyone is profiting from  facts. Your argument  is immature and naive. Come up with a fact, not an ad hominem attack, it's  not  effective and it sours  your  premise. If you have a strong premise, you would  not have to resort  to  childish barbs. 
So, no, again. I am a history professor,  an adoptee who was literally adopted on the black market decades ago, and the "industry" you speak  of doesn't really exist now in  the way you think- it's not a defined concept  the way  it was in the 50s and 60s, it's an ad hoc organic opportunistic venture which can be ethical and oftentimes not with NONE of the same variables involved. Sociology has changed everything about sex , reproduction, women's rights, economics,  societal  norms,  and issues surrounding  identity. And, sorry, we would all hope that mothers would and could keep  their kids if they want, or abort if they  choose. However,  there are still mothers and fathers ( they were not  even considered  years ago)  who do want to give  up their  babies, if they haven't aborted.  It's  not even reasonable to assume  otherwise. You can improve the system  but it's  never going away. There will always be unwanted babies, as sad as it is.

And with regard to all your esoteric examples  of coercion, etc., these are outside variables  that  do somehow intersect the entire adoption paradigm,  but they don't  define it. There will always be bad actors and bad religion and culture, but it does not apply to everyone, or  hardly anyone. Laws and policies  have  changed what is supposed  to happen,  and  we didn't have those before.

You seem angry about your own experience,  whether  you are an adoptee or birth parent. Try to climb out of  your own circumstance in order to continue  to improve the future of babies, because your personal experience  doesn't not generalize  in this regard.  I 've done that, but I suspect  I've  had much more time to reflect. Best of luck. [/quote]

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