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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes! 
Did you and your husband plan and discus having children?

Can’t believe divorce isn’t an option for a physically violent man who lashes out on his own kids

Is he abusive w you? [/quote]
I'm a PP whose DH became easily frustrated with our kids.

[b]You don't know what kind of parent you will be until you have kids.[/b]  It also depends on the kid's temperament. Some kids are easier than others.

And IMO, rough handling your child is not necessarily abusive in the legal sense.   IMO breaking up a family over this incident (or a few others) without trying to work on your parenting  is not the answer.[/quote]

I call BS - I knew exactly what kind of parent I wanted to be when I had kids. I knew 10 years before I had kids and 5 years before I met my husband.  I played a HUGE role in choosing a husband. We both took parenting classes before and after our fist was born. Two kids are adults and 2 are teens and yes - we are the parents we thought we would be.  We were always in the same page. And YES parenting can be difficult, frustrating, and challenging - which is when you have to rely on each other most.

I’m flabbergasted at people like you who get married and have kids - the biggest life impacting decision you will ever make - without giving it much thought.  If you don’t think about this what on earth do you put thought into?[/quote]

Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face. If everything worked out for you exactly the way you expected, great, but that's not the case for a lot of people and it's not because they don't know what kind of parent they want to be. [/quote]

This. Everyone is a great parent - before they have kids.  In the time BC (before children), we will all be the one family that's living the Leave It To Beaver life...

If this thread has pointed out anything, is that we all bring some measure of our baggage to the family dynamic.  Personality issues, parenting styles, stress, etc... bring things to the fore.  Even the "divorce your dh" nutjobs will end up harming their children, because living the divorced life with children is all fun and games, amirite?  Call me when your ex feeds them regular cheese instead of the organic stuff you normally give when it's your weekend; and Dad's new friend - Aunty what's-her-name - just spent the weekend...

Good luck, OP.  Continue to work on communication with DH, and together work on modeling for the children.  Life and circumstances change, if you DH is willing to grow (and you along with him) you can create the loving (albeit imperfect) family, that we - all DCUM - have experienced in our unique ways.[/quote]

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