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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was just having this realization lately OP. Supposedly we are a rule based "civilization" and every single day adults show kids that rules dont matter because they wont be enforced. And sometimes it is little things but again, these are all little white lie/actions that cumulatively snowball into a lawless society.

Every day we see:
1. People using HOV without 2+ people in the car
2. People driving up an exit only lane, passing all opportunities to merge until slamming on their brakes and having to wait to merge thus holding up those actually exiting 
3. The most recent storm showed people dont care about kids or those who walk. Just this past weekend, people were finally out shoveling their sidewalks. The storm happened on 1/25. It was 2/14. Did the city or county fine them? No. So why would they shovel? Were their driveways shoveled? You betcha. There are two neighbors with corner lots in our neighborhood who didnt shovel at all and still haven't. 
4. People dont open doors. Dont offer help or assistance. Dont look out for neighbors. They park in the fire lane to go pick up their Chipotle order instead of walking their fat a$$es 20 yards.

Then there's school- kids who don't listen get the attention. Kids get lollipops after going to the principal's office. Kids take other kids pencils and supplies and if the kid complains they get told not to be a tattletale or to deal with it themselves but then when said kid asks for the pencil back, they are told not to be disruptive or let it go. Middle school is basically a fight or two every day. Physical or sexual assault is normalized. Giving HS kids access to alcohol at parent-hosted parties.

Congress can make insider trading and become millionaires. The Trump admin is outright unethical and self-serving,
Government doesn't enforce rules. People who hurt children or women are given slaps on the wrist.

So yeah. I struggle with this. In the day-to-day of raising kids it feels like all the lessons we try to teach them and what we model in our home is not going to helpful for them out in the "real world". 
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I’m curious about what you guys are doing about these realizations. I have been noticing that reality seems to inherently reward evil behavior over good and I am not sure what to do about it. I fundamentally cannot raise my kids to be selfish and unethical so where does that leave me? Just accept poverty and suffering as the price to pay for having ethics? Sheesh.[/quote]

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