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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The conversations and actions for eldercare needs to happen and put in place in the 50s and 60s.  Otherwise they feel loss of control.  [/quote]

This is what I’ve been thinking too. If you have a preference on how you want it to be when you’re retired, organize this lifestyle now. Move where you want to be. 70+ is when executive function starts to give in[/quote]

+1.  It's also too late to establish any community in your new place if you move in your 70s.  My mom wants to move near us and I don't feel comfortable being her only social support.   She isn't a "joiner" and she would be leaving several lifelong friends from her current hometown, as well as all of her  doctors, familiar routines, etc.  I asked her to move closer (at least part-time) over a decade ago, and no interest was shown in that idea.  Moving her now and finding her all new doctors and being the only person she knows in her old age feels overwhelming to me at this point, as selfish as that sounds.  This step needs to happen earlier or incrementally (ie a part-time place that you eventually downsize to full-time).[/quote]

I disagree with it being too late. My parents, in their late 80s, just moved to a retirement community. It's been wonderful for their social lives as people there are very friendly and eager to meet the new folks. They are asked to dinner about 4x a week in the dining room and see people throughout the day. It's been great. And with my dad's Alzheimer's, my mom is grateful to have other people nearby and an immediate outlet for when she needs to get out of their apartment. [/quote]

That's great to hear!  Not all parents, especially in their 70s, are willing to move to a community with supports (I'm making the assumption that the retirement community is a form of AL).  My parent wants to buy a condo in a city.  They weren't going to meet anyone that way, based on what I know about them.[/quote]

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