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[quote=Anonymous]Relationships need to be built on authenticity, not obligation. You feel the way you do for a reason but perhaps you have not done enough analyzing to figure out why you don’t feel connected.

I have a complicated relationship with my mom. It’s not that I don’t love her but she was emotionally immature, insecure, and lacked self awareness. For most of my adult life, I have struggled to meaningfully connect with her. I couldn’t relate to her and was frustrated by her lifelong victim attitude towards life and those around her. I know she did the best she could raising us but there is a reason she has fractured relationships with her kids, grandkids, and extended families. She has pretty serious health issues now and I’m indifferent to it. I love my father dearly and do what I can to support him as her caregiver. However, I don’t know what I would do if I had to deal with caregiving weekly. I’m long distance so it’s not my daily focus. I would struggle if she was close by. [/quote]

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