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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Friend who is otherwise kind and thoughtful can be very aggressive about giving advice. It makes me angry at times, but she’s a kind person overall and I want to try to understand it which I think might help me feel less annoyed. KWIM?

Examples. That med you’re taking is causing this side effect (even though doctor says it isn’t). You need to stop taking it asap.

You need to sue your contractor. Here’s a lawyer name. Did you call him? Why not?

You have been sick. You need to file for a disability accommodation at work. Why haven’t you done it yet?

She’s very smart and means well, but definitely struggles with relationships [/quote]

If this is about me, stop telling me about your problems. I don’t understand why people have these problems and don’t do the little things to fix the problems.

Also [b]the point of telling me that you have a problem is because you know I will have a solution[/b] not necessarily those you listed but whatever [/quote]

Not the PP but just pointing out that for many people, the bolded isn't true at all. It almost NEVER occurs to me when I share a problem with a friend that my friend will have a solution. I share problems with friends as a way of letting them know what's going on in my life. Sometimes I might be looking for comfort or commiseration, it depends. But I am almost never looking for solutions.

I think this is the problem -- you think people are coming to you to solve their problems, and feel put out by it. But they probably aren't, they are just sharing info about their lives because that's something friends do.[/quote]

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