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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A 13 year old is in 7th or 8th grade?  I would also give more leash.  It’s fine to go within this boundary etc.  if you are going to go outside of it, ask first.  it’s old to be having to tell you every movement she is making after school.  It’s very common socializing for kids that age to wander some after school.[/quote]

13 seems too young to have that level of freedom. Hanging out in public with other kids, public transport? My daughter is always with me. She's with friends under supervision. She's mature and responsible but she's still a child, I don't want her wandering around, it's not safe, so many things could go wrong.[/quote]

A lot of this may be dependent on where you live. City vs burb, etc. City kids IME have more autonomy and freedom because it is easier to get around. [/quote]

We live in the suburbs and our nine year old has this level of freedom. Not allowing it at 13 is crazy.[/quote]

Why’s that boo [/quote]

Treating a 13 year old like a baby is bad for them. A 13 year is sufficiently mature to walk home and stop by the store by themselves. Having a child that age be "always with you" because "so many things could go wrong" stunts their development and demonstrates excessive anxiety about their safety. It's bad parenting.[/quote]
At 13, I was riding my bike several miles to visit friends, but a snack at the closest gas station, visit the library, etc.  There was no way for my parents to track my location. I was also capable of taking the bus.  It's good for kids to have a reasonable amount of freedom, especially if you can, in fact, see where they are.  [/quote]

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