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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you saying you want to spend less time with him?  Or you're happy with the current situation but don't want more?  If it's the latter, I don't think you have to end it.  Don't lie about your feelings and intentions.  He might end it, if he's not happy with it, but that's his choice.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being in a committed relationship with someone and not living together if it works for both of you.  My dad and his partner have been living happily this way for a decade.  They came together in their late 50s and have their own homes and interests and this set up works for them.[/quote]

Maybe.  As I think about it, I have a circle of friends that I enjoy spending time with and activities that I enjoy doing.  [b]Anytime I have free time and want to spend it doing something other than being with him he gets disappointed and it comes through.[/b]  He doesn't have a large circle of friends or hobbies.  In the summer months, he enjoys outdoor concerts with friends, but they don't do anything during the colder months.  Maybe I just don't want to be someones "everything".

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This is the problem. It's exhausting to be with somebody like that.

Communicate to him that you want time to yourself. Let him know you'll see him a couple times a week, but you need your space as well, and when he acts disappointed, it makes you want to see him even less. Also that he needs to make his own friends because you cab't be his only social outlet.[/quote]

I agree with this assessment. 
Although if they get to a place where he understands and respects that she needs her space, perhaps they can move forward with spending more time “together” - though eventually, that can include being in the same house together but not necessarily doing the same things. 
It’s often awkward at the point in the relationship where both parties need to both become more comfortable in each other’s presence but also establish some boundaries. 
A large house, potentially with separate bedrooms and enough spaces each person can go off and do their own thing sometimes, works wonders. 
OP needs her own little Bridgerton den. 
Her partner needs to get some hobbies, activities, and friends.

I am a middle aged person in LTR and having our own little hang out spaces and activities keeps us sane.
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