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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going to assume all is true and try to be helpful. Parenting girls can be hard. Keep in mind the goal is to launch and maintain a relationship. So to that end, you need to really evaluate the comments to DD to make sure they are constructive and not mean. And don’t be baited by her comments. Nothing about her weight is constructive. At her age, it’s her business. Provide guidance and assistance in getting job or going to grad school. Talk to her about where she wants to get to and what possible paths get her there. There is no point readdressing her college major, what’s done is fine. If you find jointly find a path and you have the means, it’s okay to provide financial support on the path towards the goal. Like a certification or interview clothes. You must get out of the toxic interaction. I get it that it is frustrating, you provide all the opportunities and you daughters seems to waste them. But she is young and there is time for her to turn it around. But that turnaround will not come from you degrading her. You must acknowledge that and change your behavior too. [b]I agree with not enabling her financially, she has to live the life she built for herself. [/b]But if you can be part of getting her to define goal and path to he goal that is invaluable. But nothing about past and nothing about about weight![/quote]
I disagree that what OP posted is financially enabling her daughter. Who are you people. The daughter was working and paying her own rent. Hopefully she will find another job in this shrinking job market,  it’s been very difficult for young people to obtain meaningful employment with or without a college education. OP complaining about her daughter taking money to buy basic personal necessities such as toilet paper and deodorant is mind blowing, and call this financial enabling. Heck I would help a homeless woman obtain these necessities, and not consider that anything. I don’t understand this mentality, and I pray I never will. If OP is real, her daughter is asking for the bare minimum in support, and OP is unwilling to some people should have never had children. They are just that bad at it. [/quote]

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