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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, what a great parent! He wants to check out of 70% of being a father to his children?

Some people really should not have children.  Just divorce him and get your half. He won't be around for custody, so you'll get more than 50%. [/quote]

Why not pp? I don’t know op or her husband, but doubling the salary is not something to sneer at for most people. That’s opportunity to improve savings, college savings and improve potential for higher salary down the road. Providing for kids is also part of being a parent,  why discount this aspect?[/quote]
Because money doesn't buy a parent? Jesus. If you don't want to be around your children, don't have them. Children have no choice in this world, the very least we can provide is our time and attention. They are going to be out of the house in no time, they have 6 and 8 years left. This man is going to miss 4 & 5.5 years equivalent of those 6/8 years left. He's going to miss [b]literal years[/b] of their life. I'm sorry you don't want your husband around much, but that is an extreme amount of time he's checking out of being a parent. I'm not going to pretend I think someone who would willingly miss 70% of the time with their children is a good parent.

He already doesn't want to be a parent at home, per op. Now he's trying to move away from his children. He doesn't want to be a parent. Just divorce him and he can pay child support. There is no point in being married with children to someone who doesn't want to be married with children. 
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OP said she does everything already anyway- how involved is he with the kids during the week as it is? I ask this because my own DH is not very involved with our 3 kids (1 in middle school 2 in high school) on weekdays. And not due to working long hours- he is home by 5pm, maybe 6pm at the latest. He eats dinner with whoever is around, and then goes in the den and watches tv for the rest of the evening. If any one of our kids were to disappear, it would be days before he even noticed TBH. He does not know their day to day schedules in terms of sports, activities etc. at all. Being teens, they are often in their rooms when at home. For example, I doubt my DH has spoken to our DD since maybe Sunday? And of course it is Wednesday.

Obviously not at all an ideal situation (I’m certainly not happy with it) but if OP’s household is anything like mine, the dad being “gone & away from his kids” during the week would not really make any difference anyway. [/quote]
So your husband hates you and his children, and your advice to OP is “my husband wouldn’t notice if one of his children was missing - but who cares”?

Maybe you should reflect on why you’re encouraging other women to put up with abuse from subpar men, because yikes girl, that life ain’t it. [/quote]

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