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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like church is an important value to you, “a hill to die on.”  She knows your value. You have instilled it in her that attending church is really important. This is the problem- she’s growing up and what you instilled in her will be there BUT this has become a power struggle. And you demanding she attend is just going to be a battle. If you also value family time, perhaps you and she can find another way for your family to commit to time together weekly. And if you have you get siblings, maybe they have to keep attending until they are 15 or whatever. She seems like a fairly mature kid who is coming in to her own, which is what you want. You don’t want her, when she is off on her own, to follow along because that is what someone else told her to do. She is exercising some independence, let her experience how to do so in a respectful way. And you can model that by respectfully treating her with more grace and understanding.

Try to be curious rather than judgmental.  She doesn’t agree with you right now. She has reasons. You don’t have to agree but treating each other with respect and kindness is more important than demanding she attend church weekly. Play the long game and really think of your priorities.

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