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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First child is now almost 4. Thought for a long time that one was all I wanted but now thinking I really want a second. My reasons have nothing to do with wanting to give my first a sibling (I have a sister that I have never been close to). I just feel like family is really important and I have so enjoyed all of the time with my son.  But I worry about not being able to give my first the attention he deserves and ruining my very close relationship with him. I also worry about my own health - getting older, would require another C-section. My DH could go either way but I think that a second would put a strain on him and our marriage. We are very happy and not sure I want to rock the boat, but at times I really feel that our family is not complete.

Has anyone else struggled with this, especially in your 40s?[/quote]

I was in your shoes years ago. I had my second at 43. It was a tough decision. Here's what I wish I had thought about more:
1. Do you work? How will you handle the expense of child care?
2. Is your husband an involved parent?
3. Are you a very organized person? Do you have energy to spare?
4. Per some of the earlier comments, how will you feel about having less time for yourself, husband and child #1?
5. How will you handle sibling rivalry? Did you grow up in a strong family so you have a model for how to manage family issues?

Good luck with your decision.[/quote]

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