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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You hold an ace in your pocket.  You now have the upper hand in the marriage. You have zero fkks to give. Own it and enjoy it !![/quote]

I didn’t realize I was still in a marriage, she ended it when I became the forsaken one.  I did lose the comfort of happy memories and I lost the family that I [b]sacrificed all of my other dreams [/b]to create with her.   If I wanted to shame my wife into making me happy, wouldn’t that just create more resentments and comparisons?  I get the fantasy, but I would rather play with someone I love, than live it with some incapable of love.[/quote]

Letting go of dreams is a sacrifice?
You realize dreams are not actual reality, yes? [/quote]

What are you blathering about? I can give you a real life example - a friend was in the Navy and had made it from Captain of a submarine to Commodore. In order to make Admiral, which had always been his dream (yes, that's a common phrase that people use for things they want and work towards), they would have had to uproot again for a very undesirable location. His wife said she wouldn't go (and she'd keep the kids with her) if he went. So he retired and took a private sector job. He gave up his dream, again, correct phrasing, of being Admiral in order to not lose his family. If his wife then cheated on him, I could see him saying that he sacrificed his dream, of being Admiral, to keep his family whole, and then his wife went and blew it all up. Get it now?[/quote]

Exactly, we should be planning for empty nesting together with the hard part of life behind us and the easier and enjoyable part in front of us.  Instead I have to start over, way behind financially and emotionally destroyed.  My confidence and identity need to be rebuilt, but I am tired and frustrated instead of excited and hopeful.  I know I can’t change the past and am having a difficult time envisioning a future that isn’t as disappointing and tainted as my present.  [/quote]

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