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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This process can become overly transactional. Between PSDs and consultants, families are sometimes pulled into strategies and signaling that feel disconnected from what really matters, the child. And families end up spending enormous amounts of money for guidance that doesn’t serve them well.[/quote]

Honestly, watching people go through this has made me cynical about the whole system: the culture of a school is defined to a large extent by the families who've been there since kindergarten, and that group is selected through a bunch of backchannel relationships and general skullduggery rather than an earnest desire to find a smart, kind, interesting set of kids to carry a school's traditions forward.

At least the IQ-test-based places like Hunter are going by *something* tangible about the kid, not "your daughter did a good job sorting those blocks and also her PSD was classmates with our admissions director at Bryn Mawr" or whatever.[/quote]

Fundraising requires legacy advantage otherwise no one going to donate money if their child has no chance of being admitted. In a way, it is paying it forwards. The core of a community is also dependent on how deep the relationships go (multiple generations). [/quote]

I agree that strong communities are built on long-term relationships. But for kids without legacy ties, the challenge is that those relationships can’t form unless there is meaningful access in the first place. Otherwise the system just reinforces itself rather than renewing itself. You see regression to the mean over time. Even if high school outcomes later prop things up, it’s hard to imagine how vibrant a school can be if it’s built generation after generation on the same relationships.[/quote]

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