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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP here with the young adult daughter who sounds like OPs child. . My DD did not choose to play much with Legos or a lot of traditional toys. Loved books and music and later, writing. Loved the outdoors. But no blocks ... Or Legos ... Or puzzles. That was just her. She had an incredible memory for things she had heard or seen. Still does.

If I had had your preschool teacher, I am SURE we would have been told to get an evaluation as well. [/quote]

With all due respect, you are talking about a daughter who is in her 20ties.  Doubtful that developmental delays, sensory issues were as well known or even recognized then.  Asperger's wasn't in the DSM until the early 90ties.

Your post frankly reminds me of my mom who because she did not use car seats, vaccinate as we do now, etc. and all her kids grew up OK insists these things are unnecessary.  Some of my siblings and peers suspect they have or were diagnosed with ADHD and AS/ASD as adults. Not everyone grows out of anxiety either.  For some it is a lifelong struggle and they probably would have had better outcomes if it was treated when it first appeared in childhood.[/quote]

One of the perplexing themes on DCUM is anger towards teachers suggesting an evaluation.  I guess I kind of get it because I was angry when my DS' teachers made such a suggestion.  Looking back, I'm grateful because his AS was diagnosed early and he has had the benefit of early intervention and is doing well.  But I am curious about why so many of us resent this suggestion.  Its got to be fear.  Its like women who find a lump in their breast and put off having it checked out.  Most of the time lumps are benign, but its always good to know.  if a preschool teacher suggested you have your DS' eyes examined because he seemed to be squinting a lot, I don't think you'd be as angry, even if you had every reason to think his vision was fine.  You would probably schedule the eye appointment anyway, at the very least to rule it out, and you wouldn't think twice.  But the possibility of some kind of developmental issue touches on fear.  And the result is a divide in reactions.  You have the posters who faced this and their children turned out to be fine, fine, fine, posting as if they survived a scare and they want to spare others the same scare.  Its as if the worst possible thing that happened to them is that someone suggested a problem that didn't actually exist.  I wish I had problems like that.  Then there are those of us whose children actually do have developmental disorders and we read these "OMG, not that!!!!!" posts as (1) a little insulting, because, after all, our children are "that", and (2) curiously because not only do we see the benefit of early diagnosis and intervention, but we can't possibly understand whats so bad about having an evaluation and being told there isn't a major concern.

And don't start with the specter of false diagnoses.  Yes, that exists for every possible disorder.  I know of a child who was prescribed glasses she didn't need.  Yes, a false diagnosis is more difficult in this realm but thats why we have things like second opinions.  And it happens but not nearly as often as getting a correct diagnosis.  We can't be led by fear.[/quote]

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