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[quote=Anonymous]My ILs moved to Chicago because it's a place that's easy for all of their adult children to get to. I strongly recommend that approach, rather than thinking your preferred state is everyone's preferred state. My parents live in a lovely but inconvenient ski place and I like to visit, but I certainly do pay a price in terms of time and effort to make it happen.

Don't cling to your home for sentimental reasons long after it's safe. Nobody's happy to visit a place where their aging parent is so obviously at risk for falls, can't keep up with maintenance, having to drive long after they shouldn't be driving, etc. It's just so sad, and the visit becomes dominated by arguments, worry, and helping with maintenance tasks. My ILs moved to a 55+ where all their home ownership needs are taken care of and they can get daily safety door-knocks if they request it, and that way we can spend time with them without the sadness and tension of someone clinging to a home that no longer is safe for them. It's great.[/quote]

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