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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am retired, and live alone hours from her—but mine has not. Plus, she got annoyed that I was suggesting preparation plans to help her  (re:  car issues she is dealing with).

She does not “get” how nice it is to have someone looking out for your welfare.

(Trust me, as someone who feels very much on my own.) [/quote]

I’m disappointed in the unkind comments. Sometimes children don’t grow up holding up the mirror to reflect back how they were parented. This likely has nothing to do with you. It may be simply differences in expectations, unresolved trauma that had nothing to do with you and you made not have been made aware of it. Perhaps she’s trying to separate herself as a way to develop her independence and self actualization. There are myriad of reasons this could be.  
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Sometimes children are parented badly and the parents can never admit their fault in things they did wrong in the upbringing- so the mirror reflecting back of not calling at every snow forecast is getting exactly what you gave. So many retired individuals think they should be treated with the red carpet as if it is owed to them for how wonderful they were as (mostly absent and abusive) parents. The not checking in on an impending day of snow is the same as parents and MILs complaining kids don’t come for holidays and don’t want their crappy advice on parenting.

If you don’t regularly talk to your kids and the storm has not come up in normal conversation then you have done something wrong. My parents live out west and we talk and text regularly. I already know how they are preparing and they know about my plans already. No need for a special call. [/quote]

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