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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week[/quote]

Homework should be done before dinner.[/quote]

Tell us you have young kids without telling us you have young kids[/quote]

How do you define “young kids?”  My 11 year old 5th grader routinely has 3 hours of homework/studying per night.  Her parochial K-8 finishes at 3:15, she starts homework at 3:30, finishes at 6:30, and I serve dinner at 6:45.  Two nights a week she has dance class after dinner.  What’s wrong with her finishing her homework before dinner?  Do you think she’s not working hard enough and should do more homework after dinner?  Three hours seems fine to me.[/quote]

I'm not the person who asked that question, but I had the same thought.  I would consider a 5th grader, who is still in elementary school, to be a "young kid" in this circumstance, because middle school is when things really shift.

But even if we're comparing 5th graders to each other, my kids' extracurriculars were all after school.  We chose parochial in part because it offered CYO sports, and choir, and band with practice right after school.  Your schedule only works because your kid happens to have their EC's after dinner.  Our schedule with HW after dinner worked for us.  So, announcing that every family, regardless of whether their kid is in elementary school, or attends after care, or has EC's after school, should do HW after school is really closed minded.

I will also say that I would find out if your kid's friends are also spending three hours on homework, because to me that's a red flag.  Whether it's a red flag that you need to look into a new school, or into an evaluation for your kid would depend on what other people say.  Spending significantly longer than other kids on HW can be a red flag for learning disabilities, anxiety, inattentive ADHD, and slow processing.  [/quote]

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