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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's on the modern love podcast today.

No gift links left:  https://www.nytimes.com/2026/01/14/podcasts/belle-burden-husband-strangers.html?smid=url-share

online, there's a little blurb that says:

When reached for comment about Ms. Burden’s recollections relating to their divorce and custody of their children, Ms. Burden’s ex-husband provided the following response:

“While I disagree with many of her recollections, as well as her overall mischaracterization of my relationship with my children, I do not wish to comment in more detail in order to protect them from further violations of their privacy other than to say that I continue to lovingly support, and be lovingly supported by, my children.”[/quote]

Yeah. That's a lie. Perhaps one he believes himself.[/quote]

You don't know that. None of us do. [/quote]

I suppose.  But if she had lied for example about her kids having a room in his new apartment when the essay said he refused to have rooms for them, he could have refuted that.  It’s cold to get a new home and not even allow your 3 kids overnights, let alone have any space for them. [/quote]

I don’t think she lied about custody. I think, for him, the relationship with the kids is good because he sees them occasionally (they’re old enough not to see him at all if they want) and it’s pleasant. He probably doesn’t spend any less time with them than when he lived at home. For him not much changed, and maybe not for them either. Why would they sleep in his small apartment when their mom lives in a large place in the same neighborhood? It’s not like he’s going to be hanging around making them pancakes in the morning. We don’t know how the kids feel about this, but it doesn’t sound like they are estranged. He could have moved to an inconvenient location but chose a place close by. I’m not saying he’s a great guy, far from it, but I think her account needs parsing.[/quote]

lol nobody needs to parse it. He was an absent father when they were married and is even more absent now. I’m sure he does believe that taking them to dinner once a week is being “very involved” though. [/quote]

He never claimed to be very involved, just stated their relationship remains caring and supportive. Which it might be, we don’t know. If they had nothing but low expectations for him before, nothing has really changed.[/quote]

It was weird that he said that they were supportive of him. That’s a weird thing for a parent to say. [/quote]
Weird thing is that he seems to believe it. Her kids haven’t spoken out against her book. [/quote]

He probably interprets them as being supportive of choices because they haven’t begged him to return.  I mean what is a kid supposed to say to a dad who wants a divorce and wants zero custody.  Kids know that parents can have joint custody-a dad who wants none is a slap in the face. [/quote]

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