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[quote=Anonymous]Short answer: he needs to focus more on his social life at college at not his GF or what she wants.

It's unfair of her to tell him what to do when his social life is suffering.

This was my DS freshman/sophomore year.  They had some friends, but weren't close because he spent a lot of time seeing his GF who was a few hours away.  I told him going into college that trying to see each other so much was not a good idea because he would not be able to make close friends at college, and I was right.  He never really got plugged into a group of friends, and instead, relied on his HS friends who weren't even that close to him.

He did everything he could to see her, but unfortunately she also made demands on him that meant he couldn't spend as much time with friends.  In the end, she broke up with him, and he didn't  know how to handle it.  His so called friend group also weren't as sympathetic to him, so that friendship group also left him.

He had a horrible last few months of sophomore year.   But, he said he learned a lot from the experience, and he found another group, and he said this year (junior), he's had the best time of his life.  He also had amazing internships out of state and another one coming up.   At least he had his head on straight enough to not turned down internships over the summer that meant he wouldn't see his GF much.  IMO, that cemented her desire to breakup because she expected him to spend the summer with her.

He realizes now that she was controlling, and breaking up was the best thing for him, though it was difficult at the time.

If my DS could talk to your DS he would tell him to drop the GF if she's being demanding like this.  Otherwise, he will only continue to suffer.

Unfortunately, kids never listen to the parent, and they have to learn by making their own mistakes. We just have to support them best we can even though we see them making these mistakes.

GL
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