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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are letting children intimidate you.  When the kids sass you, you SASS BACK but in your most lighthearted manner.  I don't care if these kids think I am cool, but I will always push back when they are rude.  I try to keep it friendly and say ask for what I want.

So if a kid rolled their eyes when I asked a pizza preference I'd go big and silly "OK THEN!  I guess anchovies alllllll arouund because that's Larla's favorite!  Right Larla?" and then in a calm voice the say "ok but seriously, I'm getting all cheese unless someone has another request".

But don't let them shrink you with their attitude.  If they see that works they do it more.  [/quote]

I think some kids would be encouraged to continue the behavior by this. [/quote]

My DH sometimes does this with kids and it just encourages sarcasm and sass. I also think directing that at one kid in a group of her peers, no matter how rude she is, could be really mortifying and just deepen her distrust of authority figures.

I feel you have to model maturity and respect for kids. Going tit for tat is escalating, even if you think you're hitting just the right tone.[/quote]

It is all about the tone.  And the kid.  You can easily slip into a mocking tone, which will not go over well.  But I find kids sometimes let something slip out that is RUDE and when you call them on it, in a kind or filly, but firm way, they usually don't do it again.  The key is to make sure you are not acting wounded or mad about it.  You are Fun Rule Mom, who is kind, but not putting up with BS.[/quote]

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