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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You shouldn't have told the oldest. If one is a CPA and the other two are public school teachers, the teachers will never have the earning potential of the CPA. You should have kept it quiet. [/quote]

But that is a choice they ALL made!  Unless one is independently wealthy, you don't give them less.  Anyone could choose to do the work and become a CPA or an engineer or whatever.  You get to pick what you do, and then it's up to you to live with your choices.  but the CPA shouldn't get less from their parents because they chose a better career path.

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It’s not a better career path, simply a more lucrative one. If the only way these siblings can attend the family reunion is to have their travel paid for, I don’t think it’s wrong. [b]Equity is not equality. [/b][/quote]

The parent is not responsible for equity.  They are only responsible for equality.  Treat your kids equal - especially this non-essential fun trip. 
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That’s silly. If one child needs various supports and therapies, the other child doesn’t get to demand equal funds be spent on them. Furthermore, it’s OP’s money and she can allocate it exactly as she wishes. OP’s only mistake was telling her daughter about her plans. [/quote]

What’s silly is equating paying for medical treatment to an optional family vacation, or suggesting that op try to conceal the fact that she’s paying for the siblings flights from her daughter.

OP’s mistake seems to be assuming that her daughter would want to participate in family reunion that she probably had little say in organizing and requires her paying her own way while her siblings are subsidized rather than saving her time and leave for a vacation of her choosing.[/quote]

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