Reply to Empty nest is not real until...When?

Forum Index » Adult Children

Reply to "Empty nest is not real until...When?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like everyone says empty nesting is so different, hype it up as this major change and refocus on yourself and how quiet it feels, needing to find hobbies...But so far with my two in college I find that the nest is not really empty: when they're away we talk a lot bc one especially calls all the time, and then they are home and this time for a LONG stretch. I actually feel more tired than ever now and overwhelmed bc I am less used to the routine, and it feels more intense than when they were in high school bc they were busy with activities: now on break they are relaxing at home, have friends over and meanwhile I still need to work (I work at home ft). Did anyone else feel that way, and if so when did it truly change to a stage of "now my time is mostly mine"?[/quote]

When they've proper jobs and a place they pay for and clean themselves. College kids are a bigger drain then high schoolers, if you are paying for their tuition, rent and living expenses. [/quote]

But if college costs are set aside (in a 529 or elsewhere) and they are only around for 3 months of the year total, how are they a drain?  [/quote]

I'm not the same poster, but it's more like 5 months with all the breaks, and those months they eat like maniacs. We go through an insane amount of food. They need new shoes, a suit for interviews, money to go back and forth from college. Even if you do have the money to pay for college easily, it's not free money (unless grandparents funded it obviously): it's money saved by you that you allocate and spend on them and not on you. It's fine and obviously a choice you make when you have kids, but it is still technically draining as opposed to not spending that money.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics