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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is basically me (41yo) and I have no plans to change it unless I met somebody amazing. Never had a long term relationship.

1. I'm an only child and very used to being alone.  I enjoy coming home to my quiet apartment and watching/eating whatever I want.  I don't get lonely and have an active friend group for socialization and individual hobbies to keep my brain sharp.

2. I socialize every weekend and enjoy going out to bars/concerts/sporting events.  A few of my friends are also childfree, so I expect these friendship to last.  We take friend trips to party hotspots like Ibiza and Miami.  I've traveled to 50+ countries and solo travel regularly to more adventurous destinations.

3. I'm average looking (biggest negative is that I'm short) and not sleeping with lots of women.  I chat up cute women and have the occasional fling, but I don't really chase that often.  It's rare for me to really like somebody a lot.  For the record, I had normal loving parents that stayed married to each other.  I have platonic female friends and I socialize with them regularly 1 on 1.  I have no romantic interest in them, but they're great people.  My T levels are within the normal range, but I'm definitely less aggressive than my other single male friends.

4.  I don't feel much pressure because I am 95% sure that I don't want kids.  Nothing about kids looks enjoyable and most of my friends seem overwhelmed. Deep down I am somewhat lazy and don't like being on demand for other people. I'm not willing to trade my personal interests and relaxation for the chaos of kids. I'd prefer a more active sex life, but based on conversations with my married friends, I am not sure the frequency is any better on that side of the fence. I'll probably get a vasectomy soon to ensure there aren't any surprises.

5. I have a normal 9-5 job that sounds cool and makes for good cocktail conversation.  I live comfortably in DC and I'm on track to retire modestly by 50-55yo.  Can't wait for complete freedom without job responsibilities tying me down to DC.

6. I think a lot of people get married due to social pressure or a biological urge to have kids and end up settling with whoever fits their timeline.  There's very few people I would switch places with and my married friends do not seem happy.  When I go on dates, it seems women my age are just looking for a financially sound sperm donor to pop out a kid while it's still possible. I'm on the apps, but only go on the occasional date to remind myself that I'm not missing out on anything.

I'd rate my overall happiness as about a 7/10.  I recognize I am probably missing out on some euphoric highs, but also a lot of the stress and lows.

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Not reading all this but a middle aged single man on a mommy blog is odd [/quote]

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