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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My oldest is only 15, and a boy, but if/when he gets married, I work contribute whatever they need if the bride’s parents aren’t paying or we’d do rehearsal/honeymoon. DH and I were able to fund our $100k wedding 20 years ago, and I’d want something at least as nice for them. [/quote]

You expect the women’s family to pay?!  Why? Because it’s tradition?  It’s only tradition because historically women didn’t work or receive an education.  Now that’s not the case.  Don’t continue your sexist way of thinking when the world has changed.[/quote]

Yeah, team boy mom.

When the bride is willing to relinquish all or half of the decision making to the groom and future mother in law, then your post would make sense.

But weddings are planned almost 100% by the bride, even today, down to the shoes the groom wears, and approval of or guidelines for the dress that the mother in law wears.

A wedding is one of those things where the old adage of if you are going to expect money from someone, then get ready to earn the money in the form of their (often unwelcome) opinions

Unless a bride is willing to let the groom's side be involved in decision-making and planning, then weddings should continue to follow the traditional route of the bride's side paying for it.[/quote]

Disagree. A lot of grooms are very interested, especially in the pricier things like premium open bar, the cake, the food, photography, bus to a hotel.

I was married at 25 and my family didn’t help plan anything. None of my friends had family help planning either, so I’m not sure why you think brides family is doing this. Seems to be mostly brides and grooms doing 99% of the work.

My grooms family wanted 3x the amount of people invited than I invited. I limited their friends to one table, none of their cousins, none of dhs great aunts and uncles. I only invited grandparents, dhs cousins, aunts and uncles. We couldn’t afford anything more since we were just 25. [/quote]

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