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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  No, this is wrong.  We have a budget that tallies up the monthly expenses.  We pay commensurate with the percentage of monthly income we bring in.  I.e. if monthly expenses are $10,000 and Spouse 1 brings home 30% of take home and Spouse 2 brings home 70%, then Spouse 1 contributes $3000 toward monthly expenses and Spouse 2 contributes $7000.  That way neither of us is too poor to have some money and freedom to buy things for ourselves, have drinks with friends, etc.  We still split our household and childcare responsibilities 50/50, and we consider our financial arrangement to be 50/50 as well because it is comensurate with income and we both have jobs we love.

Your arrangement seems patently unfair to you IMO.  Not sure how you can unwind it after 25 years.  Sounds like this is a holdover from your early days but he is I assume no longer in debt and you were and are not obliged to pay a "bride price" for the privilege of having married him.  You need to sit home down and have a calm conversation about how you can more fairly contribute to your household.[/quote]

I appreciate that you understand this is a holdover from early days, when the financial picture looked much different.  I am not suffering, and indeed live better than so many folks I know, so cannot complain on an absolute level (which is why I may have closed my eyes to it for so long).  I also may be overlooking other benefits I get.  But it is long past time to change, so I thanks for all the input and (from a few of you) support.[/quote]

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